Monthly Archives: August 2011

Deerfoot

Ishaan came home from camp full of stories and ideas  and is already planning which session he wants to go to next year, counting down the days, and coming up with ways to pay for it- so look out for new things in his esty shop soon.

Some of his handcrafts

The girls were so incredibly happy to see him, especially Ila.  When Ishaan saw her he ran over to her and scooped her up and she just nuzzled into him. It was a sweet and tender moment to watch. She told him he was never going to Deerfoot again because she missed him too much.

Brothers reunited

a rare family photo

We knew that two weeks away would change him but we weren’t sure how or how much. We were bracing ourselves for re-entry issues -squabbling with his sisters and general moodiness but we were pleasantly surprised that we got none of that and he just seems more responsible and considerate and easy-going.  He’s always been a fairly outgoing and confident kid, but there seems to be a new relaxed confidence and he is just at ease with himself.  Maybe it is just me projecting  onto him, but whatever it is it’s great. I am so glad he had such and incredible time and so thankful to the amazing staff at Deerfoot , but so happy to have him home safe and sound!

Canoe in progress

I’ve been reading the book Last Child in the Woods: Saving our Children from Nature Deficit Disorder” by Richard Louv.  It is a wonderful book that I have been meaning to read for several years now and I highly recommend it.

I like to think we do a pretty good job at giving our kids freedom and independence to experience nature on their own terms and that has become so much easier since leaving Brooklyn. This book goes into the details of why it is so important for children to experience nature- wether it is in your backyard, in the park, in the woods, on a camping trip, or anywhere really.

The book also has an interesting bit on camps and how and why they can be so beneficial for kids in a lot of ways. I love this quote from the book about camps, “The great worth of outdoor education programs is their focus on the elements that have always united humankind: driving rain, hard wind, warm sun, forests deep and dark- and the awe and amazement that our Earth inspires, especially during our formative years”. We love Deerfoot Lodge because it remains a camp whose focus is to bring boys to nature and teaches them love and respect it by holding on to the ideals it was founded on in 1930.

Circle of Friendship

Normal life

My friend Sarah had this great idea to document her ‘real’ life in photographs everyday for one week and invited anyone who was interested to do the same.  I thought it was a neat idea to post normal life pictures that capture (or expose) the mundane and the messy that tend to get skipped when people blog.  I was planning on participating too, but kept waiting for ‘normal’ life to happen. My first excuse was that Ishaan was away at camp and that life without Ishaan just wasn’t real.  Then our friend Sara (no H) was visiting from Brooklyn and that was tons of fun but not ‘normal’ and then we were planning a trip to Brooklyn etc. etc. But I realized that I was missing the whole point of the exercise. Things happen: blueberries ripen and you make pie, friends visit, county fairs go on,  people travel, kids get sick, hurricanes hit and it is all the real stuff of life. Okay, so maybe hurricanes and power outages are not normal, but they happen and you deal with them.

Maybe sometime this fall I will participate in the everyday project because I like the idea, but for now here is a little glimpse into the last couple of weeks in our life.

Ishaan working on a wedding present for our friends

Ishaan working on a wedding present for our friends

Ila at the fair

Ila at the fair

Blueberry picking with Sara

Blueberry picking with Sara

Ishaan's first night home from camp

Ishaan's first night home from camp

in excess

I love hand-me-downs, I really do. Our very generous friends and family have basically outfitted my kids, especially the girls, for years. I love to see Ulka in clothes that my friends Kristin and Patti’s kids wore or that her cousin Evelyn handed down.  I love to see Ila in Lucy’s and Anupriya’s clothes. I’m not super picky about my kids clothes really, and for the most part it’s all good and useful, but over the years I’ve accumulated a massive amount of stuff that I’m not going to use.  I’ve been saving it to consign or sell at a garage sale or something.  I was sorting out the kids clothes for fall trying to figure out what they have and what they need when I lost it with the bags and boxes of clothes. Our neighbor was over and he encouraged me to just get rid of it. He reminded me that no matter how tight things might be for us right now, there are so many people who have nothing. And he’s so right. Saving bags of clothing that I’ve inherited to consign or sell  seemed so wrong and selfish.

4 kids = a lot of clothes

In a rush of adrenaline, I also emptied the kid’s playroom, cleaned it, and sorted through everything. I got rid of a ton of toys and books that no one plays with and I helped the girls choose some things to donate also. We talked about how fortunate we are to have so many things and about other children who don’t have many toys and books. Ulka was on board all the way and happily started filling up a bag. Ila was not as enthusiastic, but managed to part with a few things (she has no idea what I had already bagged up- it will never be missed!) Ulka and  I loaded up the car and drove it all to the Unity House in Troy. What a great feeling to be rid of so much excess.

for donation- the high chair came back out because the girls actually play with it.

Now all the kids fall clothes are in boxes, labeled ready to go into their drawers when the weather changes. Thanks to hand-me-downs for the girls and the pass it on sale for the boys they all have everything they need, without overdoing it.

one reasonably sized box for each child

Of course I didn’t give away everything as I love to pass down my children’s clothes too- so Laura, be prepared to receive full fall wardrobes for those beautiful children of yours!

The kids have been so patient and good this week while I’ve been in a frenzy cleaning and sorting and organizing. Kitchen cupboards and drawers, my craft and sewing cabinet, a giant tangle of yarn oddments…..but it hasn’t been all work. Ulka had a friend sleep over for the first time and we went out to the lake in Scotia a couple of days, and of course to the pool and out for walks so we’ve been making the most of the last few weeks of summer too.

Ulka and Lucy having a bedtime snack

Collins Park in Scotia

what to do with over ripe bananas? Banana Pudding!

Kairav at work with his laptop that Ishaan made him and his cup of coffee

Now everything is sorted, school planning is well under way (more on that later) and I’m preparing for a very dirty, very happy, very exhausted boy with a million stories and a ton of filthy laundry- Ishaan comes home tomorrow!

Countdown to Ishaan coming home from camp- Ila is really missing him.

Raksha Bandan

Although we were not a religious Hindu family, I grew up celebrating lots of Hindu cultural holidays and festivals.  Now in our family we too carry on the tradition and celebrate a couple of the Indian holidays. My favorite is the sweet and simple holiday called Raksha Bandan.  The main ceremony involves the sister tying a thread on her brother’s wrist. The thread, called a rakhi, is a symbol of the sister’s love and prayers for protection and safety for her brother.  In return the brother offers a simple gift to his sister as a symbol of his promise to protect her all of her life. I love the sentiment of this holiday.

Brothers

Sisters

The date of  Raksha Bandan is dependent on the Hindu lunisolar calendar and falls on a full moon generally in August.  Yesterday was Raksha Bandan.  (Happy Raksha Bandan to my wonderful brothers Akash and Sanjai- your rakhis should arrive tomorrow!)

Brothers and Sisters

Since Ishaan left for camp last Saturday, we celebrated last week.  Although it wasn’t the “real” day I felt like it was so timely since Ishaan would be leaving that day for 2 weeks away from us. The kids all put on their Indian clothes and the girls tied rakhis on their brothers.

Ulka tying Ishaan's rakhi

rakhi

Ulka tying Kairav's Rakhi

Ila and Ishaan

Ila and Kairav

Ila and Kairav

My cousin Namita came on Monday and she also brought rakhis for the boys- in India cousins are like brothers and even called cousin -brothers. When Ishaan returns from camp he will get one more.

There is a legend that if the rakhi stays on until Diwali it will turn to gold.  Maybe that’s how we will finance college for all these brothers and sisters!

Caves, cake, and camp

I have a nine-year old.  On one hand it seems kind of unbelievable but on the other, I almost can’t remember my life without Ishaan.

Some friends from Brooklyn were visiting last week and they stayed for Ishaan’s birthday breakfast. Having his friend Fiona here for a few days was great, but her being here for part of his birthday was a real treat.  Our dear friends Laura and Michael and their beautiful children, Una and baby Theo, came for lunch. That was a special treat for me because I love Laura dearly and since we both moved away from Brooklyn I don’t get to see her nearly as often as I would like. After dinner Ishaan’s grandparents and great grandmother came over for cake so he got to see a lot of special people throughout the day.

Ishaan, Ulka and Fiona

Ishaan with his great grandmother

cake time

We asked Ishaan what he wanted to do for his birthday and the only thing he really wanted to do was go caving.  There is a great beginner cave  close to our house, so gramma came over during the little ones’ nap time which allowed us to take Ishaan and Ulka caving.  Ishaan wiggled down into a hole in the ground without a second thought. Ulka was a lot less sure, but with just a little encouragement decided she would at least go down and see what she thought. I’m so proud of her- she did great and we explored quite far in. I was probably as nervous as Ulka, but once I encouraged her to go I couldn’t very well back out.  It was incredible down there.  It was cold, wet and covered in clay. It was easy to imagine we were in another world. We all turned off our flashlights to experience the absolute total darkness. It is darkness that your eyes never adjust to, just complete blackness.

in the cave

I love that my kids have such a sense of wonder and imagination. All of their senses are so keen and fresh. They talked about the sounds of the dripping water, and the smell of the clay and the crispness of the air underground with excitement. We explored around the main tunnel of the cave and walked along the trickle of a stream for a while, but didn’t go into any of the really tight tunnels.  At one point Ulka shone her flashlight into a deep crevice and asked me if I thought a cave fairy lived in there.  We stopped to take some photos and while we were standing in the quiet we heard a popping sound and Ishaan said “what was that? Goblins?”  I love that they made a little trip down into an underground cave into a fairytale in their heads.  It was a sweet little trip with just the two of them.

OFF TO CAMP

Off to camp

Ishaan has been dying to go to Deerfoot lodge for 2 years, but the camp requires campers to be 9 years old.  The last session of camp started yesterday, so 24 hours after turning 9, we sent him off to camp in the Adirondacks for two weeks.  He has been counting down the days all summer. I packed his bag with remarkably little stuff: 3 pairs of shorts, a pile of t-shirts, rain gear, hiking boots, and a few layering clothes.  Not much for 2 weeks and no laundry, I hate to think about what it will look like when we unpack!

the boys at Deerfoot

It is a pretty tough wilderness camp- the cabins have no electricity or running water. No showers, just bathing in the lake.  They go on overnight hikes carrying their food, clothes, and sleeping bags themselves. They learn to swim and fish and canoe and do archery. Basically heaven for Ishaan.  The counselors greeted us warmly and as soon as we checked in and dropped his backpack off on his bunk he went out the lake to take his swimming test.  Ishaan has been working hard this summer on his strokes and breathing at the pool with me, but he had to swim farther than he has ever swum before. I was so nervous- if he didn’t pass he would have to wear a red wristband and stay in a little section near the beach until he could.  He did awesome. He was so tired and struggled a bit but he made it.  He looked a little proud but mostly just so relieved when they cut off his wristband.  I looked very proud and a little relieved.

long swim for the swim test

getting his bracelet cut off. He Passed!

We walked around camp a little bit and poked into the different buildings. The craft cabin looks incredible. Some of the counselors are making canoes and they are true works of art- just incredibly beautiful. I’ll try to take some photos of them at pick up.  There is a pottery wheel, a leather stitching, wood and copper carving. It was amazing. I’m looking forward to seeing what Ishaan comes home with.

I don't my ishy to go to camp

good bye to his sisters

After an hour or so we said our good byes.  I was really good and held back my tears. Ishaan was so excited and seemed quite unphased by the fact that we were leaving him with a bunch of strangers for 14 nights. I’m so proud of him.  He walked off to join the others,  so confident and brave and trusting. Now I need to be brave too.  It’s not so much that I miss Ishaan, I just want to know that he is having a good time, that he is not homesick, that he’s not lonely or feeling left out, that the camp is everything he imagined and more. However, since he’s not much of a writer and there are no phone calls allowed, I’ll have to trust that he is having a great time and wait to hear about his adventures when comes home. Now I’m off to write him a letter and make a rhubarb custard pie because there is nothing like pie to make one feel better.

Nine

I love celebrating birthdays, especially my childrens’ birthdays.
Birthday eves are a little bit emotional for me. The actual day is busy and exciting so I don’t have much time for thinking, but the day before I find myself looking at my child and thinking back to the day he was born and all the months and years in between.  It is a time of reflection over the last year and of anticipation for the year to come. Ishaan’s birthday can be especially emotional- he was my first and it is no small miracle that we are both here to celebrate each year.  He is kind, he is creative, he is generous beyond words,  he is a good brother, a good friend,  and a good son. He is a gift and I love watching him, talking to him, playing with him, listening to him. I am proud of the person he is and the person he is becoming.

Happy 9th Birthday Ishaan.

Garden Woes

Last summer we shared a large garden with my husband’s parents over at their place about 2 miles away.  They live next door to a farm and the farmer has generously given them a large area for their garden.  We grew just about everything you can think of and the spinach, chard, broccoli and beans that we froze lasted until this spring. But with four young children it was difficult for me to get over there as often as I wanted to help with the tending and weeding. This year we decided to have a smaller garden at our house. We have a lovely and shady backyard so we put our garden in the front-side yard. We dug out all the vinca ground cover, rototilled, added compost and built a 7 foot mesh fence to keep out the deer.

The garden is ready for planting

We planted lettuce, spinach, chard, broccoli, peas, eggplant, peppers, and tomatoes. We weeded and watched and things started to grow! The spinach failed but everything else was doing well. We were eating fresh lettuce everyday and were waiting for the peas to get just a little bigger before picking them.  The fence was doing a good job of keeping out the deer -not the rabbits! I went out one morning to check the garden and all of the peas were gone. peas, plants, all.  We secured the fence and hoped for the best.  Two days later, all the lettuce was gone.  We put wooden boards all around the garden and secured the fence.  We went camping for the weekend and when we came back the rabbits had feasted on the broccoli. They had chewed a hole through the fence. On top of it the tomatoes have blight and are rotting as they ripen. I am pretty heartbroken about the garden failure, but my Andy keeps reminding me that we still have chard and we’ve learned a lot for next year. We still do have zucchini, butternut squash and potatoes in another part of the yard and an herb garden that is surviving – I am still hopeful for those.  And my in-laws still have their beautiful pest free garden so we still get garden fresh produce, but if anyone has a good rabbit repellent idea let me know!

Why did I decide to start a blog?

I should say ANOTHER blog.  I read other people’s blogs. I like reading blogs, especially blogs about crafts, homeschooling, or Waldorf education.  I love to hear about what other homeschoolers around the world are doing. What inspires them, what works, and what doesn’t work.  Also sometimes I do feel a little trapped in my little world here, so maybe blogging will help me feel a little more connected.  Who knows, maybe something we do will be inspiring to others.

The title of this blog.  It’s the middle of the summer here and it’s been a wonderful summer. We are outside much of the time and at the end of the day my kids come home pretty filthy, exhausted, and happy.  Watching my kids play on the endless hot summer days reminds me of when I was little.  My dad used to read me poems all the time and this was one of my favorites:

Mud is very nice to feel,

All squishy-squashy between the toes!

I’d rather wade in wiggly mud,

Than smell a yellow rose.

Nobody else but the rosebush knows,

How nice mud feels between the toes.

—Polly Chase Boyden